Hi everyone, I am new to this, so please bear with me, I am not sure if I am doing the right thing, but I thought I may give it a try. Basically, I need advice and help if possible regarding my situation. I do not want to seem selfish in asking for help as I know there are people out there that are in much more need of help than me, and if only I could help them, believe me I would. If I won the lottery, I would help as many people as possible.
Okay, I will start off by explaining my past and current problems. I am 38 years of age and currently been finished in my employment that I enjoyed as I had to have an operation on my foot and was unfit for work for a few weeks, so they decided to finish me. Unfortunately, although it is good news for me and my Iranian partner, I am 3 months pregnent (after losing 2 babies this year). Unfortunately, we have a very big problem. My partner came from Afghanistan 2 years ago and was not granted asylum. He has to voluntarily leave the UK to return to his country of origin to apply to come back to the UK as my fiance. I was sponsoring and supporting my fiance to do this but unfortunately within the past 2 months, this has all changed and we are now in fear that he will be deported before we can raise the money for sponsoring him to settle in the UK with myself and our new born baby due next May 2007. I have tried so hard to find a job but no one seems to want to employ me because I am pregnant.
When I was 16 I met a man whom I was in a relation ship for 15 years. During this time we had 2 daughters who are now 12 and 11 years old. My partner used to be very abusive towards me from when we moved in together and the girls were born and I found out he was having affairs with other women and had named our daughter after one of them. He was very selfish towards me and often kicked me in front of my two girls.I finally built up the courage to leave him but had to stay with some friends until I could find a place to live from the local council. In the meantime I had to leave my 2 daughters behind and because of this and my partner then got custody of my two girls because they were still in the house with him. He told me that he would see me in hell and would make my life financially difficult for me. I was heartbroken and devastated and I gave up everything. I never had a penny from our house or any belongings from him as I could not bear to take these things away from my girls. I had to start off from scratch and found that paying off his debts of at least £15000 became too much for me to handle. I therefore had to go bankrupt, destroying all my credit rating. Later in the year, I met a man who was from Albania who seemed very caring and loyal and eventually moved in with me in my apartment. I had my girls every weekend for at least 3 days a week now. My new man asked me to marry him after knowong him a year, I was delighted as I had never been married and loved him to bits. All went well, and as soon as we were married, things changed. He started going out on his days off, coming home at 2 - 5 in the mornings. Drinking too much alcahol, being abusive towards me and punching and hitting me when he got angry because I questioned where he had been. He started to call me fat, old and ugly. He went home to Albania every year without taking me with him. Then in July 2006, he came back from Albania and I found out that he had been seeing a woman there and that is why he would not take me with him. He actually left me and apologised for the way he had treated me over the past 6 years. I was heartbroken and devastated. I would not go out, would not eat and lost 2 stone in weight over a few weeks. Eventually my friends convinced me to go out and socialise again. I built up the courage to go to the theatre one night, but instead, because it was the end of the season and closed, I diverted to the pub I knew well over the road.
This is where I met Nasir, my current partner from Afghanistan. He told me from the very begining that he wanted a serious relationship and wanted to be with someone that had a good heart as he had also been hurt badly in 2 relationships before. We have been together for nearly a year and a half, he absolutely adores my 2 daughters. I speak to is family in Iran on a regular basis. He so much wants me to meet his mum and brothers. He is the most kind and gentlest man I have ever known in my life. He does everything he can to make me happy. At last, I have found my perfect partner, but now face a problem of sponsoring him to be with me. If I could, I would move to Iran with him, but he knows that it would be impossible for me as I have two girls here. We are so worried as we do not want to be parted from each other as we want to be together when our baby is born. Nasir has a big dream of starting up a cafe in my hometown but so far this seems to be just a dream at the moment. We so much want to get married but are not allowed as the government do not allow immigrants to marry if they are not legal here.
We feel as if our world is coming to an end unless we can get help from other sources of sponsorship. I can easily accommodate Nasir as I live in a rented 3 bedroomed property but am at the moment finding it hard to support him as my job (would you believe it, at the Immigration Tribunal Service?) came to an end after my operation and no one seems to want to employ me for being pregnant. We feel like Romeo and Juliet, not being allowed to love each other as we want to and not being allowed to stay with each other. The government will not allow Nasir to work as he is a failed asylum seeker from Afghanistan. They will not help in any way. The clock is ticking away and we don't have much time to sort out this problem. On a weekly basis he has to sign at an immigration office to prove he is still living with me and they have also issued him with a ltter stating that at anytime in the future, he could be detained and deported back t his own country. We are in desperate need of help. Please please please, I know this problem may sound trivial to some of you but it means a lot to us to be together as a family and not to have to suffer being torn apart against our own will.
We would very much be grateful if there is anyone out there, willing to sponsor us in anyway.
Please help us if you can.
Many many thanks for any comments that are posted. Lots of love from two loving and caring people that just want to be a happy family,
Onoclio and Nasir xxx
